[07/07/09] BLOG UPDATE: “THAT’S LIFE, AND LOVE”
My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love
him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean
against his broad shoulders.
Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it.
I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a
relationship and my feelings. My husband is my complete opposite; his
lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments
into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.
One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.
“Why?” he asked, shocked.
“I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of
disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even
express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?
And finally he asked me: “What can I do to change your mind?”
Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question.
Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we
both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you
do it for me?”
He said: “I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.
I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy
handwriting that goes….
My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but….please allow me to explain the reasons further…..
This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.
“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs,
and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand
while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand…
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die …”
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting…
That’s LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies
in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form …
Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… AND THAT’S LIFE.
People often goes for romantic gestures, surprises, and sweet words whispered into their ears. We fall in love and feel
loved because of these so called romantic moments.
But the truth is romantic moments cannot show how much a person loves you. They merely create the feeling of being loved.
A Story Posted by Chun 1010 @ Yun Chuan
25 Speaks to “[07/07/09] BLOG UPDATE: “THAT’S LIFE, AND LOVE””
July 9th, 2009 at 4:19 am
ESTA MUY LINDA LA HISTORIA
PERO QUE TIENE QUE VER CON
WU CHUN
July 9th, 2009 at 4:53 am
Ahhh..
ini betul2x cerita
yang menharukan..
Wu Chun, Love you
more and more.
Love?
bu!!!
wo so I like your
story.
This is true story
or not?
July 9th, 2009 at 7:04 am
it is a sad story
July 9th, 2009 at 7:14 am
hey,chun,a…! I
never imagined that
u have such a deep
feeling about LOVE..
But anyway, be free
to show how u feel.
Towards
LIFE…towards
LOVE..
I’m always here
invicibly for u.
And by the way, I
want to thank
you…for what…I
also don’t know…I
just have this
feeling of being
grateful because of
you. XIE XIE NI…
July 9th, 2009 at 7:20 am
Hey,Chun,ah….! I
never imagined u
that u have such a
deep feeling about
LOVE.
Anyway, be free to
show how u feel…
Towards LIFE….
Towards LOVE…
U always has my
support and
prayer….
From AFAR…
By the way, I want
to thank you for….
What…..?
Sorry,but I also
don’t know what I’m
thanking u for.
CHUN, XIE XIE NI….
July 9th, 2009 at 11:35 am
Who wrote this? Is
it really Chun
himself?
Whaa!!! If it\’s so,
he should post one
shot stories
in fanfiction sites!
haha! Surely it will
click!!! Lol.
Nweiz… thanks for
the post. i love it!
July 10th, 2009 at 8:46 pm
Ohh…How beautiful and deep a story! I felt for the woman and the compassion within. Oh
so beautiful.
July 11th, 2009 at 12:25 am
it’s very sweet and it’s a testimony as to how of a great partner he will be to his future
girlfriend / wife.
but where was is posted? if it was in fahrenciti, i cannot seem to find it,
July 11th, 2009 at 3:15 am
i copied this, i
hope u won\’t mind..
i soo love it..
July 12th, 2009 at 10:01 am
That’s really touching.
And it’s so true … that people most of the time taking things for granted , not appreciate
enough what’s behind.
And also true … that though men are normally mentioned as ‘forgetful’ part , women can
also be so with her life partner too.
a Thai fan : )
July 12th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
Am I lame for crying
while reading this?
July 13th, 2009 at 7:10 am
oh it sad story. take care.
July 13th, 2009 at 7:53 am
this is such a heartwarming story.. whether it be fiction or not, it just goes to show that true
love doesn\’t necessarily rely on mere passion especially when you\’ve been with a person
for quite some time.. there\’d be moments when one may feel the dullness in a seemingly
companion-like relationship, but be rest assured that the fire would always be there.. i guess
it\’s just up to both of the persons involved to keep the flame of love burning in the
process..
\’tis just like finding the right person for you.. there shouldn\’t be any conscious effort to look
for or else wait for the said individual.. when that person comes, just be ready.. no idealistic
preconceptions should prevent you from finding true love and keeping it.. no one is perfect,
so we should accept all the flaws and work on being better with the person we love.. it
must be a joint effort, that\’s why i said work with and not for the person we love and
cherish so much..
at the end of the day it\’s still best if we don\’t just gain a lover or a partner, but a best
friend
and confidante as well.. only then could happily ever-after be a promising reality..
\"Remember that the truest love, is one where your love for each other is greater
than your
need for each other.\"
July 16th, 2009 at 12:04 am
Hi
I think it is a truly storie about love between two persons that are together for long time.
For that woman isn´t enough to be loved, she needs more. She needs to have also his
soul. she needs to have sure that men needs her as he needs to breath. That is why she
ask him if he would die for her. she wants everything.
Nothing much, don´t you think?
In return, that woman will be there for him when the world falls down in his shoulders. She
will go with him to hell if it is necessary.
Nothing much, don´t you think?
The answer was very bright and so realistic. With simples things that happens every day
he shows how much he is concerned with her, and most important he always takes care of
her. So, now she knows that men ( \"lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing
romantic moments\") belongs entirely to her. She would see in every daily routines
the
romantic moments that men brings to her each day of their lives. So simple and could not
be more romantic.
I am going …..
July 17th, 2009 at 9:58 am
Wu Chun , you are facinating and amazing and have lot of interesting wisdoms and
thoughts in most of yoiur blogs. I really admire you for being real intelligent , smart with lot
of passion and possible dedicating and caring. Really laughing when read your
\\"That\\\’s life
and love \\" BLOG. Wow , you are one that have good theory in married life.
But,
boy it is
not that easy when you implement it.
I like to throw some inputs ( You may consider or ignore them that are uo to you ) when I
know that you are now working hard to find \\" Love of your life\\" or
soulmate
within 3
years.
1. Find somebody that love you as you are , not as you as the popular actor /singer-celeb.
She should not be in the show business especially the actress eventhough I really like you
with Ariel Lin as both of you have lovely baby faces looking but I do not see eternal
married life for show business couple. Especially I donot beleive in sharing my girl with
other men eventhough some western social meeting kiss.
2. When you find her ,try to be with each other for at least ayear to make sure that both of
you can tuning everything in to the same wavelength and while being together do not
treat her as your girlfriend but as you potential partner .You have to start sharing happiness
and sorrow with her and treat her as equal partner . Share each other expectations and try
at least to meet half way if can manage. Do not be leader yourself. This is 20th century
already.
3. Listen to Enrique I. singing \\"Hero\\" because the lyrics are so
touch heart ,
and when
you met this special girl that you like to pop this vow to , then she may be the right girl
for you.
Quote , \\" I can be your hero bebe , i can kiss away the pain , I will stand by
you
forever , You can take my breath away \\"
All the less I leave them up to your own special requirements.
Good Luck , I wish that you can find this luckiest girl and vice versa.
Take care from Thai admirer.
PS I learnt about your blogs from my nephew who really adore you and can\\\’t undestand
English well so ask me to translate your blogs to him which made me learning that you
are popular young actor and singer .Frankly I admire all your intelligently quoting wisdoms
at the end of your Blogs more than watching you playing the TV drama and I can say that
you have not only great talents but full of good brain and energy .I like you playing
\\"Hot Shot \\"most eventhough you are not the lead actor but the
character that
you were
given and play suit more of your self as actor and businessman reflecting yourself from
my point of view more than the other romantic comedy dramas . i have to apologiize
that you may think that many of your faithful fans may not think like me. Sawasdee .
July 21st, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Wow! My tears really fell…on the keyboard. So timely to have read this article coz I am so
depressed and suddenly, this lights up my view on relationships. Too much expectations
and to little understanding really leads to nowhere but, frustration. Thanks for the insights!
July 26th, 2009 at 6:57 am
wow i remember to
read this story long
back and it
refreshes my memory.
i think this was not
done by wu chun
because it has been
circulating in the
email long time ago.
but the latter part,
its his own opinion
which is very SWEET.
anyway if he is the
author of this
story, i bowed him
for creating such a
story which is
really moving for
the readers plus the
fact that it is
spreading all over
cheers wu chun for
being a great writer
July 29th, 2009 at 12:49 am
so true…
July 30th, 2009 at 1:03 pm
More than wordsssssssss………
July 30th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
That’s Life!!
Life cant live withour L O V E
August 15th, 2009 at 1:33 am
Hi chun
I know that everyone here has the same dream of meeting you guys.
But in my reality I know that would\\\’nt happen. Because i live in New York City And it a
big City.
I know that you guys are very busy now .
But i would like to know and this is a question:
I would like to know if you and calvin would go out with an American or an Hispanic girl.
I wish I would meet you guys someday. But Who know Right
August 15th, 2009 at 1:35 am
Oh i forget If you read it please sent a me an e-mail. My e-mail is amely_slv@yahoo.com
hope that it you that response.
Thank you.
October 10th, 2009 at 3:43 pm
I like it bout this history..make me….
December 2nd, 2009 at 2:14 am
Your posted story gives a very interesting perspective of love. It happens a lot in marriage
.
when two people become so accustomed to each other that comfort becomes boredom.
Thanks for posting it up, it reminds me to appreciate the man in my life a lot more and
appreciate his practicality over being \\\\"romantic\\\\" at
times
May 8th, 2010 at 4:43 pm
Thanks for the touching story. I always felt that my husband doesn’t love me but after
reading yr story i felt his love again.